“You’re too sensitive.”
“You’re taking this personally.”
“You care too much.”
…and that’s a bad thing? I must admit that when I was younger, I used to get quite frustrated when anyone told me that I was “too sensitive.” It made me feel that I was too soft hearted, slightly foolish, and overall, just not smart. There were plenty of other feelings that came from those words, although none that I care to consciously remember. The important part here is that the overall feeling of being referred to as “too sensitive” was negative. Sensitivity was an implied weakness.
That was then.
Today, as an acute observer of human behavior in uniquely different types of workplaces around the country, it has become abundantly obvious when observing the differences of a leader that is sensitive, compared to a leader who is not sensitive to others. It is eye-opening to watch and document those that do take things personally, (or “care too much”) build and maintain deeper connections with everyone around them, produce the greatest results and have an internal Happiness Halo™ that just can’t be bought. The good news? It can be taught with will, desire and commitment. Not sure how? Email me: email@example.com
For all of us “sensitive types” we know that when we put our heart into anything we do, we often do that naturally and, of course, wholeheartedly. For me, it’s an all-in, or go home. Leave no crumbs on the table. Give it your all. Leave no stone unturned.
Quoting Lolly Daskell here, “What drives us each day to get up and go to work and work long hours is the fact that we think we are making a difference, contributing to the world around us.” “If it wasn’t personal, then why would we even be doing it?” “It’s not that you care that matters, it’s how much you care that makes a difference.”
Please, the next time someone expresses to you that you are too sensitive, or that you’re taking something personally, or that you care too much, don’t get offended! Don’t get frustrated! Smile and agree. Yes, you do take things personally. Because you care. This sensitivity chip begets amazing results, but even more than amazing results, it begets connection and meaning.
Now is the time, to take the time, so you are making the most of your time here on this planet. Until next time!
Deidre Koppelman - Founder & CEO: PEAR Core Solutions, Inc. www.pearcoresolutions.com